You are not alone. After a murder-suicide loss, you may feel devastated, isolated, and stigmatized.
We founded this group to provide hope and community for those experiencing life after this rare type of loss which, unfortunately, is an everyday occurrence in the United States.
The loss of multiple people after this type of suicide loss is incredibly complex to navigate. This stands true if you feel more connected to the victim, perpetrator, or both. If you identify as a survivor of this type of loss, or have faced this loss and aren’t sure how you identify now, we provide a supportive circle to explore healing within.
We welcome all survivors of murder-suicide loss, regardless of their relationship to those who died. We emphasize welcoming all kinds of survivors of this type of loss as we understand, for many people, you cannot “choose sides.” Our objective is to leave participants with a tool, skill, connection, or new perspective to help them move toward their healing goals.
Survivors include, but are not limited to, the following circumstances:
- Attempted murder-suicide survivors
- Child and step-child loss
- In-law loss
- Friend loss
- Parental and/or step-parental loss
- Sibling and/or step-sibling loss
- Spouse, ex-spouse, partner or ex-partner loss
- Witnesses of murder-suicide with or without direct connections to the victim and/or perpetrator
This peer-led group is a hybrid traditional support group and action group. We welcome those interested in either, or both. Our 90 minute format is conveniently divided to accommodate attendees with interests in traditional support and/or advocacy.
The group meets every other Friday evening via Zoom at 5:00 p.m. PST / 8:00 p.m. EST.
Brittany Noble McCarthy and Sara Cobb are survivors of murder-suicide loss and the co-founders of this unique support network which has connected survivors of murder-suicide loss across the United States.
We ask all attendees to complete an initial phone or video call with one of the group leaders to ensure the environment is a good fit and to ensure the safety and privacy of all group members.
Prerequisites for group participation:
- Must be 18 years of age or older
- Must be currently in professional counseling/therapy, actively seeking professional counseling/therapy, or have a willingness to professional counseling/therapy in the future
- Must be willing to share contact information with the group leads for emergency use only
Group mission, ground rules, and standard sign-up processes
- Provide a supportive place for survivors of murder-suicide loss to share their experience, thoughts, and feelings regardless of their relationship(s) to the victims and/or perpetrators.
- Provide constructive ways to grieve, cope and heal.
- Remove or work to reduce the stigma and shame an individual might feel with this often misunderstood and complex type of suicide loss.
- Help participants leave with a tool, connection, or new perspective that helps them move toward their healing goals.
Meeting guidelines and ground rules
- Our support group is open to those who have lost any loved one(s) to murder-suicide loss and each loss and relationship has equal value in the group.
- We encourage all members to share openly, honestly and from the heart, but silence is ok too.
- All emotions are valid and will not be met with judgement, criticism or condemnation.
- We practice respect for the beliefs and values of others. Spiritual or political issues may be discussed as long as they do not divide the group or take up an inappropriate amount of time.
- We respect the commitment of each others’ time. We will begin the meeting on time and end on time.
- This support group is not intended to serve as or replace professional counseling, guidance or treatment.
- All group discussions will be kept confidential unless otherwise agreed upon.