I provide both in-person and Telehealth (online) services.

For Grief Counseling: I support those who are experiencing grief related to the loss of a loved one(spouse/parent/friend/perinatal), a pet, a job, health, and relationship/marriage loss.

Trauma, Stress, Anxiety and Depression Therapy, as well as Couple, Infidelity and Divorce Counseling are other areas of specialty I provide services for.

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I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, registered with the State of New York. I provide Online Therapy (NYS residents only) and In-Person counseling services in a comfortable, confidential and supportive atmosphere. My office is conveniently located in Stony Brook, NY 11790 and is easily accessible from many highways.

In my private practice, I work with individuals/couples. Some areas of expertise I work with individuals include: anxiety, depression, stress management, abuse/trauma, PTSD, Grief & Loss, eating disorders, low-self esteem, bullying (past/present), and long-term illnesses such as auto immune diseases and cancer.

For couples, I help couples work through marriage conflict related to: trust and commitment, communication, conflict resolution, loss of connection, intimacy and healing after infidelity. For those seeking divorce, I also provide supportive divorce counseling services.

With over 25+ years of clinical experience as a Social Worker, I have successfully helped many, from ages 17 thru 65+ year olds. I work with a wide range of emotional and behavioral issues due to past and/or current life experiences. I incorporate a highly personalized approach tailored to each individual and couple’s needs.

I provide an eclectic approach, taking into account the whole person, including spirituality, ethnicity, and culture. I am an outside of the box thinker which provides a unique and individual approach to addressing life’s challenges that are affecting you. I also incorporate a Whole Person Centered Therapy and a Strengths Perspective to areas I am trained in that include: Trauma and Abuse Counseling, Gottman Therapy, Grief Counseling, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Establishing and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries, and Conflict Resolution.

My training is in Social Work and I have extensive post-graduate trainings and certificates in the following:

(1) The Gottman Method:
– Level 1 and 2 trained
– “The Couple’s Chasm”
– “Marriage Counseling”
– “Treating Affairs and Trauma”

(2) David Kessler’s Grief and Loss Trainings:
– Certified and Approved Grief Educator and Counselor
– “Healing Grief and Loss”
– “Finding Meaning, The Sixth Stage of Grief”

(3) Columbia University:
– Columbia University School of Social Work – Practice Focused Training in Prolonged Grief Disorder Treatment
– Columbia University School of Social Work – Practice Focused Training in Complicated Grief Treatment

(4) Trauma and Abuse
– Trained in Trauma and Abuse by Janine Fischer
– Trained in Trauma Treatment by Bessle A. van der Kolk
– Trained in Understanding Trauma by Dr. Gabor Matê

(5) Anxiety and Depression Reduction Techniques

(6) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

(7) Acceptance Commitment Therapy

(8) Establishing and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries in Relationships

I combine a variety of evidence-based approaches in my practice, so you can experience the latest and most effective therapies that lead to individual growth and healing. My training focuses on Positive Psychology, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Internal Family Systems Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, while also integrating my certified training in the Gottman Method, Columbia University’s PGDT (Prolonged Grief Disorder Therapy) and David Kessler’s certification as a Grief Educator and Counselor.

I truly appreciate and am honored to have the opportunity to work with individuals and couples struggling with overwhelming realities of life experiences. My belief is that one can heal from all aspects of life, no matter how difficult the journey. Healing from grief will require self-compassion, kindness, acceptance, and empathy for self, and I’m committed to those who choose to walk their healing journey out with me. Together we will look for ways to heal your heart while honoring your loved one and respecting your core beliefs & boundaries.

In person and teletherapy services for children and families.

In person and teletherapy services for adults.

As a counselor and grief educator, I provide a safe and comfortable place for you to share “where you are” on any given day.  My goal is for you to express your feelings and problems in a safe, caring and supportive environment.

I will bear witness to your grief.   I will share my feedback and offer advice and suggestions (if you are open to that) on how you can find your way through grief, which is tremendously complicated and unpredictable.  Grief is not linear; it takes as much time as you need.  It is important to not compare your process to others’ grief and not to let others judge your process.

I provide grief and loss groups in person in my office.

I provide individual and couples counseling and coaching services in person and virtually.

May you find the peace, comfort and support that you are seeking for your personal and grief journeys.

You are the ‘Tree of Life’

We are truly exceptional and gifted human beings to have made it to this point of our lives with the difficult circumstances and challenges we have been given.

At times it might feel that nobody could understand or process the multi-layers of bewilderment we have gone through. It might have felt like so many doors have been closed and opportunities lost because we were not ready, felt emotionally disconnected or even unsafe around other people.

I offer a holistic and person-centred service.  This means that I’m bound to a lifetime of learning and training which is passed on to the people I work with. I’ve worked and trained in many settings and countries and have a life-span of lived experience and knowledge about therapy, techniques and self-development.

I have had the benefit of working within hospitals, am the founder and CEO of an international wellbeing organisation, have provided training for mental health practitioners, in addition to learning from ingenious models from around the world. I believe we can begin to rewrite our stories and destinies. The story always begins with you and your life experience.  Your stories, not yet shared or processed, are yet to come to fruition. Like a rosebud which needs the right conditions to blossom.

In this lifetime we can often feel like strangers passing in the night, with no lighthouse or compass. Grasping for something to make sense of our suffering and the path to liberation. Sometimes we forget that we are the lighthouse, and the source is inside us. When we receive that intuitive message – perhaps through an ally, dream, or other intuitive means – we know and recognize progress, and we begin to transcend and shed old broken narratives and negative circumstances.

Our sessions are therefore an opportunity to explore loss, grief, trauma and human connection, and transcend through techniques of rewriting your narrative and becoming more whole and integrated.

The methodology of counselling sessions may include CBT, mindfulness, journaling, tapping & somatic reprogramming, drumming, worksheets and retreats.

The stages of therapy:

1. Assessment and road map and trajectory of the healing process

2. Establishing stability and balance in one’s body using a somatic approach.

3. Recognition of one’s own core inner strength and potential, and our resources.

4. Regulation of our emotions, and recognition of trigger points.  Use of ‘tapping’.

5. Developing and enhancing our skill set for managing painful and unwanted experiences, and minimising unhelpful responses through rewriting our narratives and stories.

6. Developing and sustaining a more positive and optimistic outlook through selfcare

William Fley

Winner of the 2023 Faith and belief forum award and 2024 Kings garden party invitee.

http://www.honouringrief.com 

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